The one growth hack that can change your life
- Ryan Bresnahan
- Mar 20, 2021
- 3 min read
What is a controlling force behind your life? Your actions, thoughts, feelings, and then ultimately your results and now reality?
Your state. Your state determines how you act and interpret information that is coming to you. Right now, put a smile on your face, and imagine a very happy time in your life that you are thankful for. I am visualizing a memory of me being in the hot tub in Evergreen, Colorado with my family and throwing snowballs at the chiminea together while it was snowing. This makes me smile, as it was a special moment with my family. Now, if I had someone text me, or someone call me right now, how do you think I would show up in the conversation after having this memory in the front of my mind?
To further my point, what would the difference be if I was thinking about something that someone had said to me, that I didn't like how it made me feel?
What do you think?
Now, my next question is, have you ever been around someone that is in a negative state? A friend of yours? I know, it would never be you!
Well, how does that make you feel? I know for one, I try to begin with understanding and love, but sometimes I just want to knock someone on the head, or even in the past, I've gotten pretty annoyed haha!
On top of knowing that the state you are in is a major controlling factor in the quality of your life, relationships, health, business, family, spirituality, etc. The people you are constantly around can also be a determinant factor in your state. I was just listening to Les Brown, one of my favorite orators, and he has the term of being around "OQP"; "Only Quality People". This is something that one of his mentors taught him, and it stuck with him.
Have you ever heard of the saying, birds of a feather, flock together, or that you are the sum of the 5 people you hang around most?
Well, think of a time that you were around a family member, a friend that had or has a major impact in your life. Think of that one positive friend that you love being around, the one that always seems to find the bright side in things, is understanding, or may always be there when you need them. What affect does that have on you? Does that make your life better, or worse?
Jim Rohn, speaker, also has a fantastic quote. If you have an enemy put sugar in your coffee, what would happen?
Well, that'd be some sweet, good coffee.
Now if you have a friend, accidently put some Strychnine, poison in your coffee, what would happen?
I think you can answer that one.
We have to be the guardian of our mind, and that means to decide who we want to have influence over us in our life. What kind of people are you hanging around? Are they "OQP"?
To add another cherry on top of the prior sweet cherry, Les Brown brought this book to my attention, The Measure of a Man, by Sidney Poitier, and quotes,
"When you walk with someone, something unspoken happens. Either they match your pace, or you match theirs."
Wow. Mic drop.
Who's pace are you matching? Have you matched anybody's pace? Who are you constantly walking with?
What would happen if you became real vigilant on who you hung around with? What if you only hung around people that were in great relationships? Healthy, vibrant physical lifestyles? People who had a deep spiritual connection? Abundant financial life? Do you think any of this would "rub off on you"?..
One might say you would have to be blind and be playing music so loud, that you wouldn't be rubbed off on while with these people!
Think of someone you look up to, and ask yourself; If you walked the way they walked, moved the way they moved, ate what they ate, breathed the way they breathed, would you start to act the way they act, and feel the way they feel..?
Surrounding yourself around those successful people just might be the one growth hack you are looking for that can massively improve your life. Let's look at who's adding what to our coffee now..;)
Ryan Bresnahan
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